The Strength In Our Scars — Bianca Sparacino
A poetry collection for when you need to heal. For when you need to be reminded that you deserve the world even when you’re nothing close to being at your best. A book for when you need to talk to a friend. For when you need to be heard. For when your world is crushing and you need something to hold on to. For when you need to know that you’re not alone. For when you’re at your best and you need to hear that you’re not even close to everything you could accomplish. It’s a book full of hope.
Here are some gems…
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Even at your best, you will not be good enough for someone who does not have the capacity, or the will, to love you. However, and this is the part you must focus on—none of that matters. For even at your worst, when you are not a shining example of everything you want to be, when life is handing you hardships and hurt, the person who is right for you will still choose you. Even when you do not deserve it, the person who is right for you will still love you.
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Trust me when I say—when it is right, everything that you love ruthlessly will love you back with the same conviction.
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You’re going to get hurt. There is no denying that.
You’re going to thrust yourself into situations that don’t work out the way you dreamed, that cannot sustain the gravity of what you feel, and you’re going to get hurt.
But this is what your fear won’t tell you—
You’re going to survive it. You’re going to heal from the wound. The hurt doesn’t last forever, though I promise you the “what ifs” will. If you don’t take the chance, if you don’t risk everything you have—you will always be an ocean of questions. You will always wonder.
And trust me—life is too short for loose ends, for feelings that were never acted upon, gestures that were never taken. Get on the plane, send that person an I’m sorry, tell them you love them, drive all night to see someone in the morning. I don’t care if it makes you vulnerable, if it exposes you.
Expose yourself. Open the hell up. Let life fill you with hurt, with
happiness; let it weather you, let it teach you. Let it inspire you, let it break you down and build you up. You are here to risk your heart. Please don’t ever forget that.
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There are certain things in life you cannot control—
and the heart of another person is one of them. Either someone chooses you
or they do not. Either someone decides to fight or they do not. At the end of
the day, you have to respect that. But you do not have to let it consume you.
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I think it’s brave. I think it’s brave that you get up in the morning when your heart aches and life is messy and you do not feel like being soft for the world. I think it is brave that you continue to love and express and open your soul, despite the way you’ve been hurt.
If you’re the person who is always there for others, know that your heart is rare. Know that you give people hope. Know that you make people feel wanted, that you make people feel seen; know that you make people feel like they have purpose. However, also remind yourself that you are not invincible. Your heart needs rest. You need rest. Remind yourself that you do not need to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders, that you may not be able to save everyone, that you may not be able to heal every hurt. Remind yourself that you deserve to take all of the energy you put out into the world and invest it back into yourself from time to time. That you are worthy of the love you keep giving to everyone else. Remind yourself that you don’t always have to be strong, that you don’t always have to be the fixer. You can be human; you can ask for help. You can take a step back to nourish the softness inside of you.
Such a beautifully articulated book!
A 4/5🌟.
